Having a Roommate
Maintaining a positive living arrangement
Many residents come to college with a positive outlook towards having a roommate. Usually, this is true for most people in residence but it's important to remember that stress levels have a tendency to increase during certain times of the year (i.e. exams) which can cause patience to thin.
It is important to be aware and appreciate these stressful times as you and your roommate move through the academic year together. By communicating your expectations early on, you can solve problems before they arise and development mutual understanding and trust.
Things to remember:
- Keep communication lines open
- Be willing to compromise
- Give your roommate the respect, consideration, and understanding you expect in return
- Discuss problems as they arise with your roommate, not with other residents
- If things change, be sure to let your roommate know. It is normal for your ideas, feelings, or even habits to change - situations change too.
- Ask your RA for help if you need it.
In order to avoid any misunderstandings, you and your roommate should discuss the following things:
- Food/Shopping: Will you be sharing food? If so, how will the shopping be divided?
- Cleanliness: Discuss how clean you expect the common areas to be.
- Privacy: What will the arrangement be to ensure privacy?
- Sharing Personal Items: Discuss what items in the common area require the other person's permission to use.
- Noise/Study Times: When are guests allowed to come over? How frequently do you plan to study in your room or common area?
- Overnight Guests: How frequently do you plan to host overnight guests? How much notice should either person give?
- Smoking/Drinking/Drugs: How will each other's smoking or drinking habits going to affect the other person? There is a strict no smoking or drug-use policy in residence.
- Parties/Entertainment: Do your preferences for parties and entertainment match? If not, you should discuss a reasonable compromise.